There are several
points to your question so I will try to deal with each below.
First, even if someone is divorced, they are not excused from their obligation
to attend Mass. Remember that the
commandment requires us to keep holy the Lord's Day. One of the
the Church is to attend Mass on Sundays and
Holy Days of Obligation. Failure to do so without sufficient cause would be a
grave sin. Whether or not a divorced
person could receive
Holy Communion, however, is a different matter. For this,
you would need to speak with a good
Secondly, I'm not sure what you mean about getting a divorce "through the
church". The Church doesn't issue divorces and
is, in fact, opposed to divorce. A sacramental marriage bond is indissoluble,
regardless of any civil 'divorce'.
Remember that Jesus said, "Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another
commits adultery, and the one who marries
a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery." (see Lk. 16:18, and also
see Mt. 5:31-32, Mt. 19:3-9, Mk. 10:2-12)
Obviously one could not commit adultery unless they were still married.
Therefore, a divorce has no effect upon the
reality of a valid marriage – the couple is still married even after a 'civil
divorce'. Once validly married, a couple
always remains married (until death). Perhaps you are speaking of an
annulment? An annulment does not "end a marriage"
though, it simply declares that a marriage never existed in the first place
(even if a so-called 'marriage' was legal in
the eyes of the state). The Church has no authority whatsoever to end a valid
marriage – in fact, no one on earth has
this authority (regardless of what the state may like to think). Christ has
spoken very clearly on this matter. If a
marriage is valid at the beginning & is consummated, it remains valid until one of the spouses
dies. This is expressed in Church law as
Can. 1141: "A marriage that is ratum et consummatum can be dissolved by no
human power and by no cause, except death."
(1983 Code of Canon Law)
A marriage that is valid remains valid even if a parent did not approve of the
marriage. Of course, this assumes that
the marriage was consummated and that it was valid to begin with. A wedding
ceremony *doesn't* absolutely guarantee a
valid marriage if there was some impediment or defect. This would have to be
looked at by the Church via the annulment
If you have
questions about annulments, you may be interested in the user-submitted
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Lastly, it is important for you to attend Mass because the Church requires it,
because of God's commandment, and because
Jesus instructed the Church to do this (e.g. Mass) for a commemoration of Him
(see Lk. 22:19). If you do not attend Mass
without sufficient reason, it would be a grave sin. Furthermore, by attending
Mass, you do receive graces.
I hope this answers your questions. If you have further questions regarding
this matter, please try the topic
page on divorce
Also, you might want
to speak with a good, holy priest for more specific guidance.
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