MyCatholicSource.com - 'Quick Help' Page: Husband Has No Time For Me

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Unfortunately, our site does not provide this type of one-on-one conversation. Have you thought of speaking with a good priest? Would your husband also be willing to speak with the priest? It seems to me that it would be wisest to speak with a good priest rather than strangers about these types of personal matters. You might also consider any worthy Catholic marriage counseling services that may be available, if applicable. I would also encourage you to persevering prayer. God always has time to hear your prayers and always cares about you and wants your good. Although the situation may be difficult, you are never alone or forgotten about by God. I recall to mind how some saintly wives handled issues with their husbands and how their persevering prayers were eventually answered. Along with offering up your sufferings, you might want to invoke patron saints like St. Monica, St. Rita, etc. You can find more here.

Perhaps you might also want to try...

* Managing your time together differently or more creatively (e.g. could he find some time if you visited him at work, assuming this is appropriate?)

* Spending some time attempting to see things from his perspective (e.g. is he working hard to provide for you?, what is he concerned about at work?, might something be troubling him?, what might happen at his place of business if he wasn't there so much?, is the economy a significant threat?, do circumstances make it so he can't delegate work?, etc.)

* Asking him to commit to be home for a regular "appointment" that he (hopefully) wouldn't want to miss (e.g. special dinner, wholesome entertainment, etc.). If possible, let him choose the day/time

* Making a special effort to be supportive, loving, upbeat

Also, I would ignore feelings of being "unworthy" to ask the Lord for help. You are God's daughter. He chose to create you instead of an infinite number of other people that He could have created. He ALWAYS loves you and has time for you. He wants you to go to Him. Remember that Scripture says to "Cast all your worries upon him because he cares for you." (1 Pt. 5:7) We are exhorted over and over again in Scripture to pray. Certainly, God wants to help you through this difficulty. Don't let fear of being "unworthy" stop you from seeking His help. Thankfully, being "worthy" isn't a criteria for speaking with our loving Father. If so, who could speak with Him? We are all sinners.

Don't forget also that you have many friends in heaven – the saints. You can find patrons at the link above. There are also numerous quotes from saints on our site (e.g. try here). Perhaps you may find some their 'pearls of wisdom' helpful.

I am sorry you are facing a difficult time right now. I hope things will get better for you very soon.

May God bless you both.

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